Dear Abby,
Have you heard of the saying "The boy is the father of the man"? Well, I've changed it around to say "The girl is the mother of the woman". Now, take a minute and think about this quote. For those who are a little confused by this, I'll break it down for you. This means that something that happened to you in your childhood, be it something someone said or did, is still guiding you today. For example, if you were told not to cry because you had nothing to cry about, then maybe today you don't show emotion at all. Or maybe you were raped as a child, and today you jump everytime someone even touches you. What is your inner girl or boy telling you today?
Now, I've been through alot in my little 22 years of living, and I have this little girl trying to tell me how to act, feel, or even tell me what people are thinking. For example, I was talked about and made fun of growing up, so now everytime someone looks in my direction laughing, I think they are laughing at what I have on or even the way I look. Now, they very well could have been laughing at something the person sitting next to them said or something that happened last week. But the little girl in me tells me that they are laughing at me. How in the freakin' world do you kill this little girl in you? How do you tell her to shut the freak up or even go to hell?
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Aw @ Dear Abby. Yes, I've heard of the expression and think it's very powerful. How do you tell her? You open your mouth and say it. You make up in your mind that I'm not going to let those insecurities created by my childhood affect my adult life anymore. If somebody is laughing at what you have on or what you look like, let them laugh. Just know that you are beautiful and cool and stylish in your own way. And if they have a problem with it, it's their problem.
Lest I imply it's easy, it's not. But take it one day at a time. Remind yourself what's great about you and dwell on that, not what others may or may not be laughing at.
Lawd chile! I feel you cuz it's hard to get over stuff what has happened in your childhood. It's one of those things where you have to keep tellin yaself.. HEY IM WORTH IT! lol@that commercial! You gotta tell yaself your self worth and it CAN NOT be determined by other folk! That's just my 2 cents and that's how I deal when I feel like everybody is starin at me! UGH
Mrs. and durtymo: I agree with both of you all. Thanks.
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